Kübler-Ross wrote about stages of grief for people facing terminal illness — not for everyone navigating loss. Somewhere along the way those stages became a script people feel they're failing to follow correctly.
You don't have to move through grief in order. You don't have to be done by a certain point. You don't have to feel the things everyone else tells you to feel. What you do have to do is actually move through it — which is harder than it sounds, and almost impossible to do alone.
I work with people in the middle of active loss and people carrying grief that's years old and never fully processed. Both are valid starting places. The work looks different, but the need is the same: a space to be honest about what this has actually been like.